Where discretion once was the better part of valor, it feels as though discretion is now the better part of trust. Taken to the extent where by not informing a partner that a surprise is coming, you trigger a series of emotions that often result in feelings of betrayal, abandonment, dishonesty, and lack of faith.
I take great exception to this trend of confession to enable trust. For me, my life is built on individual relationships. The having of one relationship does not entitle one to details of any other relationship, except where there my be an overt impact to the other.
The difference between something you would want to know, and something you need to know are very different. Though frequently meshed together into a foot stampy pouty insistence of entitlement. Even when the information you may receive would inform you to make a different decision, this is still not a need you have, as a decision has already been made without it. It may not be the best decision for you, but it was your decision all the same.
As we fall head first into mass surveillance, unfiltered data collection, and the ever present compulsion to share every detail of our personal lives. From snap chatting pictures of a hamburger to listing every relationship and context on our public profiles, we need to only look around the room in which we sit and remind yourself there are curtains on our windows.
We do not live our lives as exposed show pieces to be on display. We are private creatures that need privacy to attain peace of mind. The internet is the great vacuum of thoughts where each of us spew our conscious into the void. Where the window treatment protects from prying eyes to our bodies, we must strive to maintain a level of privacy for our minds.
Though cyberspace is not a void, but a pond filled with fish and filters and aqueducts pulling off its content to be re-purposed, mined, sifted, filtered, and measured. There are both predators and benign organisms in the pond, though once we cast our mind in to it we have little or no control as to what it attracts.
The concept of "if you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to fear" is complete bullshit. Propaganda issued from an organization whose very existence was secret for its first 30 years, with secret budgets, secret operating procedures, and secret oversight... Hypocrisy in it's purest from. Clearly, we have everything to fear, as they hide everything about themselves.
